Self-determination and regulation of conflict in romantic relationships

Human Motivation and Interpersonal Relationships: Theory, Research, and Applications

Volumn 9789401785426, Issue , 2014, Pages 139-158

  Knee, C Raymond ^a   Porter, Ben ^a   Rodriguez, Lindsey M ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF HOUSTON   (United States)

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DOI: 10.1007/978-94-017-8542-6_7     Document Type: Chapter

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