Being and Becoming through Being Heard: Listener Effects on Stories and Selves

International Journal of Listening

Volumn 29, Issue 2, 2015, Pages 67-84

  Pasupathi, Monisha ^a   Billitteri, Jacob ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF UTAH   (United States)

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EID: 84929030242     PISSN: 10904018     EISSN: 1932586X     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10904018.2015.1029363     Document Type: Article

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