Relational Implications of Secrecy and Concealment in Parent-Adolescent Relationships

What Can Parents Do?: New Insights into the Role of Parents in Adolescent Problem Behavior

Volumn , Issue , 2008, Pages 43-64

  Finkenauer, Catrin ^a   Engels, Rutger C M E ^b   Kubacka, Kaska E ^a  

^a VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

^b RADBOUD UNIVERSITY NIJMEGEN   (Netherlands)

Author keywords

Adolescent development aspects; Childhood and parental protection; Disclosure and secrecy; Independence and closeness, autonomy and connectedness; Mystery and excitement; Parent adolescent child relationships; Parent adolescent relationships; Secrecy and concealment definition; Secrets and concealment; Self related and social developmental tasks

Indexed keywords

EID: 84889390118     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1002/9780470774113.ch2     Document Type: Chapter

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