Lying, cheating, complaining, and other aversive interpersonal behaviors: A narrative examination of the darker side of relationships

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 20, Issue 4, 2003, Pages 471-490

  Kowalski, Robin M ^a   Walker, Sherri ^b   Wilkinson, Rachel ^b   Queen, Adam ^b   Sharpe, Brian ^b  

^a CLEMSON UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b NONE

Author keywords

Aversiveness; Narratives; Relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 0041825656     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/02654075030204003     Document Type: Review

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