Playing hard-to-get: Manipulating one's perceived availability as a mate

European Journal of Personality

Volumn 27, Issue 5, 2013, Pages 458-469

  Jonason, Peter K ^a   Li, Norman P ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WESTERN SYDNEY   (Australia)

^b SINGAPORE MANAGEMENT UNIVERSITY   (Singapore)

Author keywords

Evolutionary psychology; Playing hard to get; Sex differences; Sexual economics

Indexed keywords

EID: 84884978045     PISSN: 08902070     EISSN: 10990984     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1002/per.1881     Document Type: Article

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