How sweet it is to be loved by you: The role of perceived regard in the terror management of close relationships

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 102, Issue 3, 2012, Pages 616-632

  Cox, Cathy R ^a   Arndt, Jamie ^b  

^a TEXAS CHRISTIAN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI   (United States)

Author keywords

Close relationships; Mortality salience; Perceived regard; Relationship self esteem; Terror management theory

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; ATTITUDE TO DEATH; COGNITION; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LOVE; MALE; OBJECT RELATION; PERCEPTION; SELF CONCEPT;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ATTITUDE TO DEATH; COGNITION; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LOVE; MALE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PERCEPTION; SELF CONCEPT; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 84861092409     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0025947     Document Type: Article

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