The sum of friends' and lovers' self-control scores predicts relationship quality

Social Psychological and Personality Science

Volumn 2, Issue 2, 2011, Pages 138-145

  Vohs, Kathleen D ^a   Finkenauer, Catrin ^b   Baumeister, Roy F ^c  

^a UNIVERSITY OF MINNESOTA   (United States)

^b VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

^c FLORIDA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Relationships; Romantic relationships; Self; Self regulation; Well being

Indexed keywords

EID: 80051756151     PISSN: 19485506     EISSN: 19485514     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/1948550610385710     Document Type: Article

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