"You're Just Saying That." Contingencies of self-worth, suspicion, and authenticity in the interpersonal affirmation process

Journal of Experimental Social Psychology

Volumn 44, Issue 5, 2008, Pages 1376-1382

  Lemay Jr , Edward P ^a   Clark, Margaret S ^a  

^a YALE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Affirmation; Approval; Authenticity; Autonomy; Close relationships; Contingencies of self worth; Feedback; Self esteem; Social support; Suspicion

Indexed keywords

EID: 48749130376     PISSN: 00221031     EISSN: 10960465     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1016/j.jesp.2008.05.001     Document Type: Article

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