The benefits of positive lllusions: Idealization and the construction of satisfaction in close relationships

Close Relationships: Key Readings

Volumn , Issue , 2004, Pages 381-408

  Murray, Sandra L ^a   Holmes, John G ^a   Griffin, Dale W ^a,b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

^b UNIVERSITY OF SUSSEX   (United Kingdom)

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DOI: 10.4324/9780203311851     Document Type: Chapter

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