Forgiveness and forgiving communication in dating relationships: An expectancy-investment explanation

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 27, Issue 6, 2010, Pages 801-823

  Guerrero, Laura K ^a   Bachman, Guy F ^b  

^a ARIZONA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b CALIFORNIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

communication; expectancy violation theory; forgiveness; forgiving communication; hurt; investment model; relational transgression

Indexed keywords

EID: 77956860540     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407510373258     Document Type: Article

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