Are you happy for me? How sharing positive events with others provides personal and interpersonal benefits

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 99, Issue 2, 2010, Pages 311-329

  Reis, Harry T ^a   Smith, Shannon M ^a   Carmichael, Cheryl L ^a   Caprariello, Peter A ^a   Tsai, Fen Fang ^b   Rodrigues, Amy ^a   Maniaci, Michael R ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER   (United States)

^b NATIONAL UNIVERSITY OF SINGAPORE   (Singapore)

Author keywords

Capitalization; Close relationships; Intimacy; Positive events

Indexed keywords

ADULT; AFFECT; ANALYSIS OF VARIANCE; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HAPPINESS; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; PERCEPTION; PHYSIOLOGY; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SATISFACTION; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; STUDENT;

ADULT; AFFECT; ANALYSIS OF VARIANCE; FEMALE; HAPPINESS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; PERCEPTION; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR; STUDENTS; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 77955333819     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/a0018344     Document Type: Article

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