A leap of faith? Positive illusions in romantic relationships

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 23, Issue 6, 1997, Pages 586-604

  Murray, Sandra L ^a   Holmes, John G ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY AT BUFFALO   (United States)

^b NONE

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EID: 0031285048     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167297236003     Document Type: Article

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