Love, desire, and the suppression of thoughts of romantic alternatives

Evolution and Human Behavior

Volumn 29, Issue 2, 2008, Pages 119-126

  Gonzaga, Gian C ^a,b   Haselton, Martie G ^b   Smurda, Julie ^b   Davies, Mari sian ^b   Poore, Joshua C ^b  

^a eHarmony   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Attractive Alternatives; Commitment; Intimate Relationships; Love

Indexed keywords

EID: 39049138485     PISSN: 10905138     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1016/j.evolhumbehav.2007.11.003     Document Type: Article

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