Why disclosing to a confidant can be so good (or bad) for us

Uncertainty, Information Management, and Disclosure Decisions: Theories and Applications

Volumn , Issue , 2015, Pages 384-402

  Kelly, Anita ^a   Macready, Diane ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NOTRE DAME   (United States)

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