Does Sex Really Matter? Examining the Connections Between Spouses’ Nonsexual Behaviors, Sexual Frequency, Sexual Satisfaction, and Marital Satisfaction

Archives of Sexual Behavior

Volumn 46, Issue 2, 2017, Pages 489-501

  Schoenfeld, Elizabeth A ^a,b   Loving, Timothy J ^b   Pope, Mark T ^b   Huston, Ted L ^b   Štulhofer, Aleksandar ^c  

^a Youth Family Alliance dba LifeWorks   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT AUSTIN   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF ZAGREB   (Croatia)

Author keywords

Interpersonal behaviors; Marital satisfaction; Marriage; Sex; Sexual satisfaction

Indexed keywords

ADULT; FEMALE; HUMAN; MALE; MARRIAGE; PSYCHOLOGY; SATISFACTION; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SPOUSE;

ADULT; FEMALE; HUMANS; MALE; MARRIAGE; PERSONAL SATISFACTION; SEXUAL BEHAVIOR; SPOUSES;

EID: 84953219622     PISSN: 00040002     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s10508-015-0672-4     Document Type: Article

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