It Takes Two to Forgive: The Interactive Role of Relationship Value and Executive Control

Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin

Volumn 40, Issue 6, 2014, Pages 803-815

  van der Wal, Reine C ^a   Karremans, Johan C ^a   Cillessen, Antonius H N ^a  

^a RADBOUD UNIVERSITY NIJMEGEN   (Netherlands)

Author keywords

executive control; forgiveness; interpersonal relationships; self regulation

Indexed keywords

EID: 84901029865     PISSN: 01461672     EISSN: 15527433     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0146167214525807     Document Type: Article

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