Learning Emotional Understanding and Emotion Regulation Through Sibling Interaction

Early Education and Development

Volumn 25, Issue 2, 2014, Pages 160-184

  Kramer, Laurie ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS AT URBANA CHAMPAIGN   (United States)

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EID: 84893409090     PISSN: 10409289     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10409289.2014.838824     Document Type: Article

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