How siblings resolve their conflicts: The importance of first offers, planning, and limited opposition

Child Development

Volumn 77, Issue 6, 2006, Pages 1730-1745

  Ross, Hildy ^a   Ross, Michael ^a   Stein, Nancy ^b   Trabasso, Tom ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WATERLOO   (Canada)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CHICAGO   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

AGE; ARTICLE; ATTITUDE; CHILD; CHILD BEHAVIOR; CONFLICT; FEMALE; HUMAN; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; MALE; PRESCHOOL CHILD; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SIBLING RELATION; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

AGE FACTORS; ATTITUDE; CHILD; CHILD BEHAVIOR; CHILD, PRESCHOOL; CONFLICT (PSYCHOLOGY); FEMALE; HUMANS; MALE; NEGOTIATING; SIBLING RELATIONS; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

EID: 33750904439     PISSN: 00093920     EISSN: 14678624     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-8624.2006.00970.x     Document Type: Article

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