Demand-Withdraw Communication in Couples

The Wiley-Blackwell Handbook of Couples and Family Relationships

Volumn , Issue , 2012, Pages 144-158

  Eldridge, Kathleen A ^a   Baucom, Brian ^b  

^a PEPPERDINE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Conflict structures, some exacerbating a gender stereotyped pattern; Demand withdraw and social structure, conflict structure, multiple goals; Demand withdraw communication in couples; Demand withdraw communication, therapy seeking couples; Demand withdraw interaction pattern, demanding behavior in one partner; Distal context, individual, relational, cultural variables; Examining treatment responsiveness and refining existing therapies; Heterosexual relationships, male demand female withdraw; Same sex relationship satisfaction, inversely associated with demand withdraw; Treatment responsiveness, in demand withdraw and relationship distress

Indexed keywords

EID: 84879804364     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1002/9781444354119.ch10     Document Type: Chapter

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