Approach and avoidance motives and close relationships

Social and Personality Psychology Compass

Volumn 6, Issue 1, 2012, Pages 95-108

  Gable, Shelly L ^a   Impett, Emily A ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

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EID: 84855336148     PISSN: None     EISSN: 17519004     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1751-9004.2011.00405.x     Document Type: Review

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