Gender Differences and Similarities in Strategies for Managing Conflict with Friends and Romantic Partners

Sex Roles

Volumn 67, Issue 1-2, 2012, Pages 83-97

  Keener, Emily ^a,b   Strough, JoNell ^a   DiDonato, Lisa ^a  

^a WEST VIRGINIA UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b SLIPPERY ROCK UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Agentic; Communal; Conflict management; Everyday problem solving; Friendship; Gender; Goals; Interpersonal problem solving; Peer conflict; Relationship types; Romantic partner; Strategies; Traits

Indexed keywords

EID: 84861723020     PISSN: 03600025     EISSN: 15732762     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s11199-012-0131-9     Document Type: Article

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