When friends disappoint: Boys' and girls' responses to transgressions of friendship expectations

Child Development

Volumn 83, Issue 1, 2012, Pages 104-119

  MacEvoy, Julie Paquette ^a   Asher, Steven R ^b  

^a BOSTON COLLEGE   (United States)

^b DUKE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADAPTIVE BEHAVIOR; AGGRESSION; ANGER; ARTICLE; CHILD; CONTROL; DECEPTION; EMOTION; FEMALE; FRIEND; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMAN; MALE; PEER GROUP; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

ADAPTATION, PSYCHOLOGICAL; AGGRESSION; ANGER; CHILD; DECEPTION; EMOTIONS; FEMALE; FRIENDS; GENDER IDENTITY; HUMANS; INTERNAL-EXTERNAL CONTROL; MALE; PEER GROUP; SOCIAL BEHAVIOR;

EID: 84856291045     PISSN: 00093920     EISSN: 14678624     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-8624.2011.01685.x     Document Type: Article

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