Appraisal and distancing responses to hurtful messages II: A diary study of dating partners and friends

Communication Research Reports

Volumn 27, Issue 3, 2010, Pages 193-206

  McLaren, Rachel M ^a   Solomon, Denise Haunani ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF IOWA   (United States)

^b PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Appraisal Theory; Emotion; Hurt; Intentionality

Indexed keywords

EID: 79959570544     PISSN: 08824096     EISSN: 17464099     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/08824096.2010.496325     Document Type: Article

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