When partners falter: Repair after a transgressio

Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations

Volumn , Issue , 2003, Pages 185-205

  Emmers Sommer, Tara M ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ARIZONA   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9781410606990-9     Document Type: Chapter

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