Putative secrets: When information is supposedly a secret

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 26, Issue 5, 2009, Pages 713-743

  Caughlin, John P ^a   Scott, Allison M ^a   Miller, Laura E ^b   Hefner, Veronica ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ILLINOIS AT URBANA CHAMPAIGN   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TENNESSEE   (United States)

Author keywords

Closeness; Deception; Disclosure; Hurt feelings; Privacy; Relational distancing; Secrets

Indexed keywords

EID: 71949106129     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407509347928     Document Type: Article

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