The experience and expression of anger, guilt, and sadness in marriage: An equity theory explanation

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 25, Issue 5, 2008, Pages 699-724

  Guerrero, Laura K ^a   La Valley, Angela G ^b   Farinelli, Lisa ^c  

^a ARIZONA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b BLOOMSBURG UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c Augustana College

Author keywords

Emotional expressions; Emotions; Equity; Inequity; Marital satisfaction

Indexed keywords

EID: 54149089870     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407508093786     Document Type: Article

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