How was your day? Couples' affect when telling and hearing daily events

Personal Relationships

Volumn 15, Issue 2, 2008, Pages 205-228

  Hicks, Angela M ^a,b,c,d   Diamond, Lisa M ^a,b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF UTAH   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF UTAH   (United States)

^c Westminster College   (United States)

^d WESTMINSTER COLLEGE   (United States)

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EID: 43949102043     PISSN: 13504126     EISSN: 14756811     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1475-6811.2008.00194.x     Document Type: Article

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