Finding the person in personal relationships

Journal of Personality

Volumn 70, Issue 6, 2002, Pages 813-850

  Reis, Harry T ^a   Capobianco, Anthony ^a   Tsai, Fen Fang ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF ROCHESTER   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; METHODOLOGY; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; RESEARCH; REVIEW; STATISTICAL ANALYSIS;

DATA INTERPRETATION, STATISTICAL; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; PERSONALITY; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY; RESEARCH; RESEARCH DESIGN;

EID: 0036886558     PISSN: 00223506     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/1467-6494.05025     Document Type: Article

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