Maintaining friendships throughout the lifespan

Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations

Volumn , Issue , 2003, Pages 79-102

  Dainton, Marianne ^a   Zelley, Elaine ^a   Langan, Emily ^b  

^a LA SALLE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT SAN ANTONIO   (United States)

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DOI: 10.4324/9781410606990-4     Document Type: Chapter

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