On being 'just friends': The frequency and impact of sexual activity in cross-sex friendships

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 17, Issue 2, 2000, Pages 205-222

  Afifi, Walid A ^a   Faulkner, Sandra L ^b  

^a PENNSYLVANIA STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b EAST CAROLINA UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Cross sex friendships; Expectations; Sexual activity; Uncertainty

Indexed keywords

EID: 0034413839     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407500172003     Document Type: Article

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