Conflict avoidance: A functional analysis

Uncertainty, Information Management, and Disclosure Decisions: Theories and Applications

Volumn , Issue , 2015, Pages 320-340

  Roloff, Michael E ^a   Wright, Courtney N ^b  

^a NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF TENNESSEE   (United States)

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