Forgiveness in personal relationships: Its malleability and powerful consequences

European Review of Social Psychology

Volumn 19, Issue 1, 2008, Pages 202-241

  Karremans, Johan C ^a   Van Lange, Paul A M ^b  

^a RADBOUD UNIVERSITY NIJMEGEN   (Netherlands)

^b VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

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EID: 85036505148     PISSN: 10463283     EISSN: 1479277X     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/10463280802402609     Document Type: Article

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