The role of forgiveness in shifting from "Me" to "We"

Self and Identity

Volumn 7, Issue 1, 2008, Pages 75-88

  Karremans, Johan C ^a   Van Lange, Paul A M ^b,c  

^a RADBOUD UNIVERSITY NIJMEGEN   (Netherlands)

^b VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

^c LEIDEN UNIVERSITY   (Netherlands)

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EID: 36849064924     PISSN: 15298868     EISSN: 15298876     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/15298860601182435     Document Type: Article

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