When Parents’ Praise Inflates, Children's Self-Esteem Deflates

Child Development

Volumn 88, Issue 6, 2017, Pages 1799-1809

  Brummelman, Eddie ^a,b   Nelemans, Stefanie A ^c,d   Thomaes, Sander ^d,e   Orobio de Castro, Bram ^d  

^a UNIVERSITY OF AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

^b STANFORD UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF LEUVEN   (Belgium)

^d UTRECHT UNIVERSITY   (Netherlands)

^e UNIVERSITY OF SOUTHAMPTON   (United Kingdom)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADULT; CHILD; CHILD PARENT RELATION; FEMALE; HUMAN; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; NARCISSISM; NETHERLANDS; PSYCHOLOGY; SELF CONCEPT;

ADULT; CHILD; FEMALE; HUMANS; MALE; MIDDLE AGED; NARCISSISM; NETHERLANDS; PARENT-CHILD RELATIONS; PARENTING; SELF CONCEPT;

EID: 85033236510     PISSN: 00093920     EISSN: 14678624     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/cdev.12936     Document Type: Article

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