Meta-accuracy and relationship quality: Weighing the costs and benefits of knowing what people really think about you

Journal of Personality and Social Psychology

Volumn 111, Issue 2, 2016, Pages 250-264

  Carlson, Erika N ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TORONTO   (Canada)

Author keywords

Interpersonal perception; Metaperception; Personality; Relationships; Self knowledge

Indexed keywords

DECISION MAKING; EYE; FRIEND; HUMAN; MAJOR CLINICAL STUDY; PERCEPTION; PERSONALITY; PSYCINFO; ADOLESCENT; ADULT; FEMALE; HUMAN RELATION; MALE; METACOGNITION; PEER GROUP; PHYSIOLOGY; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUALITY; YOUNG ADULT;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; FEMALE; FRIENDS; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; MALE; METACOGNITION; PEER GROUP; SELF CONCEPT; SEXUAL PARTNERS; SOCIAL PERCEPTION; YOUNG ADULT;

EID: 84975784442     PISSN: 00223514     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1037/pspp0000107     Document Type: Article

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