Empathy, Guilt, and Depression: When Caring for Others Becomes Costly to Children

Pathological Altruism

Volumn , Issue , 2012, Pages

  Zahn Waxler, Carolyn ^a   Van Hulle, Carol ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN MADISON   (United States)

Author keywords

Anxiety; Childhood precursors of depression; Costs of caring empathic overarousal; Gender; Marital conflict; Parent depression; Parenting; Pathogenic guilt

Indexed keywords

EID: 84921653863     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.1093/acprof:oso/9780199738571.003.0224     Document Type: Chapter

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