Attending to temptation: The operation (and perils) of attention to alternatives in close relationships

Social Relationships: Cognitive, Affective, and Motivational Processes

Volumn , Issue , 2008, Pages 321-337

  Miller, Rowland S ^a  

^a SAM HOUSTON STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

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EID: 84909156492     PISSN: None     EISSN: None     Source Type: Book    
DOI: 10.4324/9780203888124     Document Type: Chapter

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