Long-distance romantic couples: An attachment theoretical perspective

Journal of Marital and Family Therapy

Volumn 36, Issue 2, 2010, Pages 115-125

  Carole Pistole, M ^a  

^a PURDUE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADULT; ARTICLE; FEMALE; HUMAN; HUMAN RELATION; LOVE; MALE; OBJECT RELATION; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY;

ADULT; FEMALE; HUMANS; INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS; LOVE; MALE; OBJECT ATTACHMENT; PSYCHOLOGICAL THEORY;

EID: 77953035614     PISSN: 0194472X     EISSN: 17520606     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/j.1752-0606.2009.00169.x     Document Type: Article

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