Age-Related Changes in Demand-Withdraw Communication Behaviors

Journal of Marriage and Family

Volumn 75, Issue 4, 2013, Pages 822-836

  Holley, Sarah R ^a   Haase, Claudia M ^b   Levenson, Robert W ^b  

^a SAN FRANCISCO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

aging; communications; couples; life span development; marital relations

Indexed keywords

EID: 84879820846     PISSN: 00222445     EISSN: 17413737     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1111/jomf.12051     Document Type: Article

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