Making the connection: Social bonding in courtship situations

American Journal of Sociology

Volumn 118, Issue 6, 2013, Pages 1596-1649

  McFarland, Daniel A ^a   Jurafsky, Dan ^a   Rawlings, Craig ^b  

^a STANFORD UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

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EID: 84879588545     PISSN: 00029602     EISSN: None     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1086/670240     Document Type: Article

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