Partner-Oriented Self-Regulation Among Bereaved Parents: The Costs of Holding in Grief for the Partner's Sake

Psychological Science

Volumn 24, Issue 4, 2013, Pages 395-402

  Stroebe, Margaret ^a,b   Finkenauer, Catrin ^c   Wijngaards de Meij, Leoniek ^a   Schut, Henk ^a   van den Bout, Jan ^a   Stroebe, Wolfgang ^a,b  

^a UTRECHT UNIVERSITY   (Netherlands)

^b UNIVERSITY OF GRONINGEN   (Netherlands)

^c VU UNIVERSITY AMSTERDAM   (Netherlands)

Author keywords

attribution; avoidance; bereavement; cognitive processes; marital conflict; self regulation

Indexed keywords

EID: 84876182324     PISSN: 09567976     EISSN: 14679280     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0956797612457383     Document Type: Article

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