Patterns of Intimacy and Distancing as Young Women (and Men) Friends Exchange Stories of Romantic Relationships

Sex Roles

Volumn 68, Issue 7-8, 2013, Pages 439-453

  Norona, Jerika C ^a,c   Thorne, Avril ^a   Kerrick, Madeleine R ^a   Farwood, Halley B ^a,d   Korobov, Neill ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

^b UNIVERSITY OF WEST GEORGIA   (United States)

^c UNIVERSITY OF TENNESSEE   (United States)

^d PACIFIC UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Development; Friends; Gender; Intimacy; Positioning; Romantic relationships; Stories; Young adulthood

Indexed keywords

EID: 84874950168     PISSN: 03600025     EISSN: 15732762     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1007/s11199-013-0262-7     Document Type: Article

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