Intimacy and distancing: Young men's conversations about romantic relationships

Journal of Adolescent Research

Volumn 21, Issue 1, 2006, Pages 27-55

  Korobov, Neill ^a   Thorne, Avril ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA   (United States)

Author keywords

Discourse; Emerging adulthood; Intimacy; Masculinity; Positioning; Romantic relationships

Indexed keywords

EID: 29344451209     PISSN: 07435584     EISSN: 15526895     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0743558405284035     Document Type: Article

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