All you need is love: Current strategies of mediating intimate relationships through technology

ACM Transactions on Computer-Human Interaction

Volumn 19, Issue 4, 2012, Pages

  Hassenzahl, Marc ^a   Heidecker, Stephanie ^a   Eckoldt, Kai ^a   Diefenbach, Sarah ^a   Hillmann, Uwe ^b  

^a Folkwang Hochschule Essen   (Germany)

^b DEUTSCHE TELEKOM LABORATORIES   (Germany)

Author keywords

Emotional communication; Experience design; Interaction design; Intimate relationships; Long distance relationships; Relatedness; Review

Indexed keywords

EXPERIENCE DESIGN; INTERACTION DESIGN; INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS; LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS; RELATEDNESS;

COMMUNICATION; REVIEWS;

TECHNOLOGY;

EID: 84872400684     PISSN: 10730516     EISSN: 15577325     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1145/2395131.2395137     Document Type: Review

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