Idealization, reunions, and stability in long-distance dating relationships

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 24, Issue 1, 2007, Pages 37-54

  Stafford, Laura ^a   Merolla, Andy J ^a  

^a OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Dating relationships; Idealization; Long distance relationships; Premarital stability; Relational maintenance; Reunions

Indexed keywords

EID: 33846474845     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407507072578     Document Type: Article

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