Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 29, Issue 5, 2012, Pages 569-596

  Bleske Rechek, April ^a   Somers, Erin ^a   Micke, Cierra ^a   Erickson, Leah ^a   Matteson, Lindsay ^a   Stocco, Corey ^a   Schumacher, Brittany ^a   Ritchie, Laura ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN EAU CLAIRE   (United States)

Author keywords

Cross sex friendship; friendship; sex differences; sexual attraction; sexual strategies

Indexed keywords

EID: 84865487994     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407512443611     Document Type: Article

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