Negotiating Breakups and Renewals in On-Again/Off-Again Dating Relationships: Traversing the Transitions

Communication Quarterly

Volumn 60, Issue 2, 2012, Pages 165-189

  Dailey, René M ^a   Rossetto, Kelly R ^b   McCracken, Andrea A ^c   Jin, Borae ^d   Green, Erik W ^e  

^a UNIVERSITY OF TEXAS AT AUSTIN   (United States)

^b BOSTON COLLEGE   (United States)

^c DIXIE STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

^d Yonsei University   (South Korea)

^e TechSoup Global   (United States)

Author keywords

Breakups; Dating Relationships; On Again off Again Relationships; Relational Transitions; Renewals; Turning Points

Indexed keywords

EID: 84862093216     PISSN: 01463373     EISSN: 17464102     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/01463373.2012.668847     Document Type: Article

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