The ex-files: Trajectories, turning points, and adjustment in the development of post-dissolutional relationships

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

Volumn 25, Issue 1, 2008, Pages 23-50

  Kellas, Jody Koenig ^a   Bean, Dawn ^b   Cunningham, Cherakah ^b   Cheng, Ka Yun ^b  

^a UNIVERSITY OF NEBRASKA LINCOLN   (United States)

^b SAN FRANCISCO STATE UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

Break up adjustment; Communication studies; Post dissolutional communication; Post dissolutional relationships; Relationship development; Relationship dissolution; Turning points and trajectories

Indexed keywords

EID: 39349105463     PISSN: 02654075     EISSN: 14603608     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1177/0265407507086804     Document Type: Article

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