Straight Wives of HIV-Positive Husbands Who Contracted the Virus Through Male-to-Male Sexual Contact

Journal of GLBT Family Studies

Volumn 8, Issue 1, 2012, Pages 99-120

  Klaar, Charlotte M ^a  

^a CAPELLA UNIVERSITY   (United States)

Author keywords

HIV positive; infidelity; male male sexual contact; mixed orientation marriage; sexual identity; straight wife

Indexed keywords

EID: 84857152871     PISSN: 1550428X     EISSN: 15504298     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/1550428X.2012.641374     Document Type: Article

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