The complexity of couple communication in bereavement: An illustrative case study

Death Studies

Volumn 35, Issue 10, 2011, Pages 905-924

  Hooghe, An ^a   Neimeyer, Robert A ^b   Rober, Peter ^a  

^a UNIVERSITY OF LEUVEN   (Belgium)

^b University of Memphis   (United States)

Author keywords

[No Author keywords available]

Indexed keywords

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; ARTICLE; BEREAVEMENT; BRAIN TUMOR; CHILD PARENT RELATION; CONFLICT; EMOTION; FAMILY; FEMALE; HUMAN; INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION; MALE; PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT; SPOUSE;

ADOLESCENT; ADULT; BEREAVEMENT; BRAIN NEOPLASMS; COMMUNICATION; CONFLICT (PSYCHOLOGY); EMOTIONS; FAMILY; FEMALE; HUMANS; MALE; PARENT-CHILD RELATIONS; SPOUSES;

EID: 84855557425     PISSN: 07481187     EISSN: 10917683     Source Type: Journal    
DOI: 10.1080/07481187.2011.553335     Document Type: Article

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